Dear Qui Talks,
This is a cliché post. I have read so many blog entries and heard conversations about the way women treat each other. Funny thing is that we are all aware of this phenomenon but we conticontinuously treat each other as enemies.
Think about it! We as women, of all race have to battle the man just to be equivalent to them. So why do we keep scowling, giving side eye, or size another female when we are in the presence of each other. We should encourage, elevate, and educate each other.
Again this is a cliché post, because this is something we all talk about. I have found myself doing the same when I am around other women. I secretly feel intimidated asking myself, “what is she looking at me? ” – or even creating stories in my head thinking she may not like me. (She doesn’t even know me. How did I get to that?)
Now ,when I say intimidated, I do not mean feeling less than. When I say intimidated, I mean to see a woman in the same room that I work hard to get into makes me know that you were as hard as I did to get into the same room. Now, you are competition instead of an alliance and that’s where the intimidation stems.
We, as women, quickly judge one another because of the way a woman is dressed, makeup, hair, body shape, circle of friends, and even skin tone. We judge off of things that has nothing to do with a person’s actual personality.
Don’t get me wrong, I am extremely guilty of this. I would stay quiet in the presence of another woman, but if a guy is around I became a Chatty Cathy. Only because I wanted them to see my intelligence level and the power I have as a female.
Why is it so important that I show my broad personality to a man but remain shutdown in the presence of a woman?
Since I started questioning all of these things, I decided to start giving women compliments. If I am around a female, I will give them atleast one compliment pertaining to what they are wearing, physical appearance, or even things they say. This has lowered the iron walls, we as women acquire at birth. These compliments are a way of saying; “I come in peace.”
I give this one for free:
“Men always ask, what do women want. The answer is, to be complemented. All women love compliments. Try it out! If you are ever in a room full of women, compliment 3 of them and see how the energy changes.”
We all have a reason the be uptight, but why let our stubborn “society” taught ways block a blessing that you may give another person or even recieve. You never know who’s day you may turn around…or vise versa.
My lady Talkers, lets all compliment each other. We are a force together. Get in formation, the battle has begun!