Dear Qui Talks: What is the purpose of life?

Dear Qui Talks,

I used to ask myself, “What is the meaning of life?” “Why are we all put here?” Many have answered to fulfill a destiny…but what is our destiny?

The answer came to me out of nowhere. “We are put on this earth to help others.”

Just think about it!

We are raised watching our parent help us grow. We go to school to learn a skill that will land us a job/life. Whether it be your dream job or just one that pays the bills, they all have the same end goal…Customer Service! We are all put here to help a group of people or just one person. Our end goal is to help others.

We go through life asking God to get us into a particular school, land a certain job, or start your own business just to help another person benefit their life. At the end of the day, we are all put here to help others.

We have watched many movies and seen with our very own eyes what happens to those who are only concern with self-gain…DESTRUCTION! So, why do we keep questioning our existence?

I’ll end on this! I went to bible study tonight and the guy speaking posed a question that had all of us in awe… “If God answered all of your prayers in the past year, would the world change or would you just change?”

Talkers, you are not alone in this world. So, if you can’t make the world a better place, what is the purpose of you being better alone? Together we stand, together we fall!


Dear Qui Talks: I’m Scared of Change but I Need Something New!

Dear Qui Talks,

After a year of great trials and tribulation; suffering and huge closings, I finally realized I became a new person.

We complain about wanting change in our lives, every time the new year hits but remain on the same path as last year. Life is like transitioning hair from perm to kinky or growing out your old pixie cut.

First you make the decision to finally change your hair. You are excited about the change and ready for something new. Subsequently, you stop perm’ing your hair or stop shaping your pixie cut. About a month or so of your life changing decision, you enter the “awkward phase.” That is the phase where your hair just looks weird. Your natural curls are starting to grow in with your old straightened hair or your pixie is growing out and your hair is unmanageable. Similar to life after any huge change comes trials and tribulations.

After making that change (leaving an ex, moving, changing careers, or anything) your life seems out of control. Everything just seems to be going wrong and you have lost control of styling your hair. At this point you want to revert back to your old ways because you start to think “you have made a mistake.” What we tend to forget is with any new growth in life, we are never ready. Even if you make plans, you are never ready. It’s called “growth.” You are going to have a new life and be a new person. If you knew what you would be in store for then it would not be “new.”

Thereafter, the awkward phase (trial/tribulation) things start to come together with little effort. Your new grown hair falls into place correctly, styling it is more manageable, and you start to feel like yourself again. A newly buffed and waxed self. Now, if someone from last year sees you, they may not even recognize who you are because they knew the old permed or pixie cut, you! Now you are ready to enjoy this new life until you decide to make another change.

I basically wrote all of this to tell everyone in the middle of any trial they may be facing; to hold on, you are almost there. Just keep going, change is coming. Even when you do not feel like you can push through, push harder. Something greater is waiting for you!

Talkers, who are afraid to make that change in their life because they do not know what is in store for them? Or in the middle of a change and want to quit? If this is you, make that change now or keep going. Something greater is waiting for you.

Dear Qui Talks: Close Friends/Family are the Worst Energy Suckers

Dear Qui Talks,

I have been doing a really good job at curving negative energy and remaining in the positive realm. I have also been able to change other people’s energy and mood with very little effort. However, one energy that is contagious and sometimes hard to curve are those of your closes friends and family.

When a friend and/or relative is in negative space, they tend to bring you into that realm with them. I honestly do not believe they mean to bring you down, but their negative remarks or actions have a greater effect than they realize.

For instance, when things are coming together in your life but things do not make sense in theirs, they will deliberately find something negative to say about your life, so they won’t feel as bad about theirs. Again, this may not be done to harm you. You know that they love you and will always protect you.

Just think about the time you are unhappy and trying to gather the pieces of this thing they call life. If someone on a different frequency, rather extremely positive and joyful comes into your presence you start to push them away. Simply because you do not understand how they could be so happy. More like, you are annoyed that they are happy and you want to be where they are but don’t know how. Although, you may not slander them, but internally you rather they be on your level. Hence, why those closes to you try to bring you down with their negative remarks and/or actions.

The phrase “misery wants company” is very accurate.

Now you may ask, “what do I do when the negative energy surrounds me?” The answer is to remember all the good qualities about yourself and your life. Whatever was pointed out as a negative, never existed prior so why should it affect me now? If you see this quality is starting to affect you, write a list of all the things you have going for yourself and post it on the wall. Every time that particular person pokes at you, remember your list. If all fails, stay away from that energy sucker. Even if you live with them! Find ways to stay on opposite sides or get a hobby and stay out of the house.

Energy suckers are real and they prowl on the weak minded. Unhappy people will always want a crew. If you join them, you may never get out!

Talkers, stay away from those energy suckers. They are bad company and you will lose track of your journey and goal.

Dear Qui Talks: Waking up in Paradise!

Dear Qui Talks,

I do not remember the last time I had a good night sleep. You know, that sleep! The one you sink into the bed, all tensions in our body are released. That kink in your neck is no longer there. The ache in the middle of your back, due to stress, vanished! All of the weight of your problems are now lighter than ever. That sleep, when you lay your head, not only do you smile but your heart glows at the same time. You can actually feel your heart glowing. 

Well, I can tell you that I finally had that sleep. I had, what is called a “Good Night Sleep.”  The best part about it, when I woke up, I smiled! I drew the curtains, made a pot of coffee, and enjoyed a steamy shower. I felt like wonder woman, ready to take on the world. 

Do you remember that feeling when you had the biggest crush on someone and you found out that they liked you too? That instant glow, that instant sensation of happiness, the butterflies, and the tingles. That is the feeling I had this morning!

Problems; what problems?

Trials; where are they?

Tribulations; who?

That is how I felt this morning. 

Can you believe I woke up at 7am and WENT FOR A RUN!?!? That is what waking up in paradise means. I want this feeling FOREVER!

Funny thing, I didn’t wake up in my own bed. I didn’t wake up in my own home. I didn’t rest my head on my own pillow.

Now, I can’t stop but wonder – What is wrong with my bed or home? How do I stop sharing a bed with my adversity?

Talkers, do you share a bed with your problems? Tell us! Let us know if they are not alone.

Dear Qui Talks: Still I Rise!

Dear Qui Talks,

I was having a conversation with an amazing elder woman (90 years old to be exact). She told me about all of her trials and tribulations she has been through in her lifetime. Man, I tell you, this woman has been through it. I don’t really want to tell you about her personal trials, however, I can tell you that my problems seem minuscule compared to hers. 

As I sit there and listen to her stories, to see how far she has come; one person kept popping in my head. To be accurate, one poem – “Still I Rise” by Maya Angelou. So for everyone going through it, this one is for you!

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops,
Weakened by my soulful cries?

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own backyard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.

Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

Talkers, this is for those who still can’t see the light at the end of the “dark” tunnel.

Dear Qui Talks: What is wrong with me?

Hey Qui Talks,

I am in love with a man that has a girlfriend? However, when we are around each other there is a sure connection. When we touch, vibrations run through my body. He looks into my soul. I know it sounds cliche, but this man does something to me and I believe I do things to him. We have been in each other’s life since middle school. But we never got with each other. The timing just seemed to never be right. But the love we have for each other lights me up inside. Now, here is the shocker. He is getting married to his girlfriend of 10 years.

WTF!?!?!?!?!? Was this love ever real? Did I make this all up in my mind? Did I twist all of his words and gestures for my pleasure? What is wrong with me?


Talkers, is she the only person in this situation?

Dear Qui Talks: I am choking! I need out!

Dear Qui Talks,

I feel like I am choking. I am living for everyone else and not really living for myself. I am doing everything for everybody. I do not really know who I really am. Is my career really mine? Did I really want to follow the path my life is currently on? I am secretly losing my mind and no one knows. I am doing everything I am supposed to do to look good in everyone else eyes but I am now questioning everything.

I am losing my identity and I do not know where I should find it. Is it too late to back out from everything now? I need an escape route and I do not know where to go. I do not even know if I want to be in my current relationship. Am I really in love or am I just existing? 

I have so many questions about my life. I think this is where I a suppose to be but is this what I want to do? I need to get out of this world for a little bit. I need some alone time. Not sitting in my house- alone time. Some, get out of this world and leave everything behind – alone time.

Am I the only one feeling this? Am I the only one losing their mind? Am I the only one that is confused with life and do not know where to go? 

Am I?

Talker, if you feel the same give us your thoughts.

Dear Qui Talks: People Hate What They Don’t Understand!

Dear Qui Talks,

I have been observing a lot of people in my life lately. Many are starting to act funny because of the way I am moving. What I have realized is that “People hate what they do not understand.”

Anyone that is different or does anything different, people automatically dislike. Whatever the majority is doing, people are more receptive. However, as soon as you decide to choose a path that is unconventional, hatred enters the realm. People will choose the majority because that’s what everyone tells them. But the person that chooses a different route gets shunned because the majority doesn’t understand why they chose that route.

My message to those who are on a path that majority hasn’t taken, KEEP PUSHING.

Many will try to get you off that path with bad words, actions, and deceit. All those things are needed to build your wisdom, strength, and power. Let them turn there back on you because that back is what’s going to lead you into your destiny. The 1% of the successful people in the world did not get to where they are by taking a conventional route. They, too, have taken the unpaved path. If you ask any of them, they will tell you about all the people that turned their backs on them because they did not understand why they did not stay true.

Plus, it’s better that you know who is really here for you now rather than later. Do not let anyone bask in your glory if they are not willing to support you through the unknown.

Talkers, this is for you!

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