Dear Qui Talks: Life has its own plans!

Dear Qui Talks,

Everyone pretty much have their lives planned out. Some have it planned to the “T” while others have it planned for the next day. However, life has its own plan. It is up to you to accept the change and persevere or fight the change and be left behind.

I recommend accepting the change and letting life play its course. Fighting the change brings uncertainty, sadness, and depression. Let go and let God! His plan is way better than yours.

Peace, love, and joy comes from believing in the impossible and letting life play its course. Remeber that for 2018!

Talkers, let go and let God!


Dear Qui Talks: Waking up in Paradise!

Dear Qui Talks,

I do not remember the last time I had a good night sleep. You know, that sleep! The one you sink into the bed, all tensions in our body are released. That kink in your neck is no longer there. The ache in the middle of your back, due to stress, vanished! All of the weight of your problems are now lighter than ever. That sleep, when you lay your head, not only do you smile but your heart glows at the same time. You can actually feel your heart glowing. 

Well, I can tell you that I finally had that sleep. I had, what is called a “Good Night Sleep.”  The best part about it, when I woke up, I smiled! I drew the curtains, made a pot of coffee, and enjoyed a steamy shower. I felt like wonder woman, ready to take on the world. 

Do you remember that feeling when you had the biggest crush on someone and you found out that they liked you too? That instant glow, that instant sensation of happiness, the butterflies, and the tingles. That is the feeling I had this morning!

Problems; what problems?

Trials; where are they?

Tribulations; who?

That is how I felt this morning. 

Can you believe I woke up at 7am and WENT FOR A RUN!?!? That is what waking up in paradise means. I want this feeling FOREVER!

Funny thing, I didn’t wake up in my own bed. I didn’t wake up in my own home. I didn’t rest my head on my own pillow.

Now, I can’t stop but wonder – What is wrong with my bed or home? How do I stop sharing a bed with my adversity?

Talkers, do you share a bed with your problems? Tell us! Let us know if they are not alone.

Dear Qui Talks: Still I Rise!

Dear Qui Talks,

I was having a conversation with an amazing elder woman (90 years old to be exact). She told me about all of her trials and tribulations she has been through in her lifetime. Man, I tell you, this woman has been through it. I don’t really want to tell you about her personal trials, however, I can tell you that my problems seem minuscule compared to hers. 

As I sit there and listen to her stories, to see how far she has come; one person kept popping in my head. To be accurate, one poem – “Still I Rise” by Maya Angelou. So for everyone going through it, this one is for you!

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops,
Weakened by my soulful cries?

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own backyard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.

Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

Talkers, this is for those who still can’t see the light at the end of the “dark” tunnel.

Dear Qui Talks: Enough with the petty stuff!

Dear Qui Talks,

Why is this world so petty? Everyone is being malicious and evil just to get an arousal put of others. We all are so quick to retaliate instead of educating others.

Have you ever thought to yourself – who really knows me entirely?

When you experience an issue with another individual it is not them being mean, in fact that could be their true self. But because you do not like their response, action, or ways – you become petty.

We are all so quick to react as soon as you “feel” that you could be getting played. Honestly, what you “feel” is not factual. In reality, you may just be seeing a person true honest self. Or my favorite is when both parties are confused as to what is going on but instead of growing a pair and having a true conversation, we react.

People will hate what they do not understand!

How about you ask a question and see what’s the answer. How about you show your true self, so they can show their true self or get clarity.

We are all have hidden agendas and get upset when somebody else has a hidden agenda. Like they say, “treat others the way you would like to be treated.” If you are treating somebody else with an agenda, what makes you think that person may not treat you with an agenda?

I am sincerely tired of everyone and their pettiness and wanting to hurt others instead of bring people up. If someone hurts our feelings we’re so quick to find a way to hurt them more just to make ourselves feel better. Do you really feel better?

Have you ever thought to yourself about a time someone did something evil to you and you were confused about their reaction? Especially since you were being your honest self. Now flip the role! You probably hurt people for no apparent reason.

“Two wrongs don’t make a right!” I know….cliche…but a lot of people do not follow that rule. Next time you feel a type of way about a person, how about you be the bigger person and ask them what’s the problem?

Talkers, how petty were you this year?

Dear Qui Talks: What is wrong with me?

Hey Qui Talks,

I am in love with a man that has a girlfriend? However, when we are around each other there is a sure connection. When we touch, vibrations run through my body. He looks into my soul. I know it sounds cliche, but this man does something to me and I believe I do things to him. We have been in each other’s life since middle school. But we never got with each other. The timing just seemed to never be right. But the love we have for each other lights me up inside. Now, here is the shocker. He is getting married to his girlfriend of 10 years.

WTF!?!?!?!?!? Was this love ever real? Did I make this all up in my mind? Did I twist all of his words and gestures for my pleasure? What is wrong with me?


Talkers, is she the only person in this situation?

Dear Qui Talks: I am choking! I need out!

Dear Qui Talks,

I feel like I am choking. I am living for everyone else and not really living for myself. I am doing everything for everybody. I do not really know who I really am. Is my career really mine? Did I really want to follow the path my life is currently on? I am secretly losing my mind and no one knows. I am doing everything I am supposed to do to look good in everyone else eyes but I am now questioning everything.

I am losing my identity and I do not know where I should find it. Is it too late to back out from everything now? I need an escape route and I do not know where to go. I do not even know if I want to be in my current relationship. Am I really in love or am I just existing? 

I have so many questions about my life. I think this is where I a suppose to be but is this what I want to do? I need to get out of this world for a little bit. I need some alone time. Not sitting in my house- alone time. Some, get out of this world and leave everything behind – alone time.

Am I the only one feeling this? Am I the only one losing their mind? Am I the only one that is confused with life and do not know where to go? 

Am I?

Talker, if you feel the same give us your thoughts.

Dear Qui Talks: People Hate What They Don’t Understand!

Dear Qui Talks,

I have been observing a lot of people in my life lately. Many are starting to act funny because of the way I am moving. What I have realized is that “People hate what they do not understand.”

Anyone that is different or does anything different, people automatically dislike. Whatever the majority is doing, people are more receptive. However, as soon as you decide to choose a path that is unconventional, hatred enters the realm. People will choose the majority because that’s what everyone tells them. But the person that chooses a different route gets shunned because the majority doesn’t understand why they chose that route.

My message to those who are on a path that majority hasn’t taken, KEEP PUSHING.

Many will try to get you off that path with bad words, actions, and deceit. All those things are needed to build your wisdom, strength, and power. Let them turn there back on you because that back is what’s going to lead you into your destiny. The 1% of the successful people in the world did not get to where they are by taking a conventional route. They, too, have taken the unpaved path. If you ask any of them, they will tell you about all the people that turned their backs on them because they did not understand why they did not stay true.

Plus, it’s better that you know who is really here for you now rather than later. Do not let anyone bask in your glory if they are not willing to support you through the unknown.

Talkers, this is for you!

Dear Qui Talks: I Hate That Damn Phrase

Dear Qui Talks,

I am getting so sick of people using the phrase – “It’s easier said than done! People cling on to that phrase when they want to do something life-changing in their lives but need an excuse as to why they haven’t started. 

Yes, I believe there are some things that may be easier said than done (i.e. Getting a million dollars in 24 hours). Even that is obtainable for some.

We all need to get out of that mindset and just start moving. The world is not handed to us. In able for your life to change, you have to do something. We all can talk for hours about what we want to do, but if you do not move, it will not get done. 

So, stop telling me it’s easier said than done. You won’t know unless you try. And even if you try and fail, TRY AGAIN! Nothing comes easy. It takes work, honey. So get that ass up and stop making excuses. It only takes one move to get things going. How about you try it! 

Talkers, this is for you!

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